I also knew they took it upon themselves to save me, because they cared about me, and in their Reality, I was going to hell otherwise. It's a delicate situation.

This is the hardest thing for me to deal with when i deal with deeply Christian people. To remember that, no matter how frustrating it may be, they ARE doing it out of love.

It's interesting you bring up fandom. So many people I know found themselves through fandom, and how much more open it is.