Exactly. This 100%. This is the only agency a lot of women feel they are given. That doesn't mean being passive-agressive is a good idea, but one can easily see how many women develop those patterns of communication without trying to be manipulative.
And then some people are just plain manipulative, but that's another story.
I tend to have the opposite problem. I'm too direct. I've been told this multiple times. I can't count the number of times I've been told to soften what I'm saying or to make it more 'indirect', essentially, more passive. This apparently is more endearing or less threatening or something.
I only fall into passive-aggressive patterns under extreme duress and helplessness, and it's highly unusual. I don't think that's a gendered behavior in that circumstance.
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Date: 2010-02-10 08:11 pm (UTC)And then some people are just plain manipulative, but that's another story.
I tend to have the opposite problem. I'm too direct. I've been told this multiple times. I can't count the number of times I've been told to soften what I'm saying or to make it more 'indirect', essentially, more passive. This apparently is more endearing or less threatening or something.
I only fall into passive-aggressive patterns under extreme duress and helplessness, and it's highly unusual. I don't think that's a gendered behavior in that circumstance.